Meaningful Phrases – we’ve all heard them from time to time. In fact, some of them are so familiar that we often cringe when we hear them repeated.

So, what’s with these phrases that set our teeth on edge or makes us want to scream and shout with vexation when we’ve heard them said from a well-meaning friend or a sincere peer.

“Keep a stiff upper lip.”

“When I was a kid, I …. .”

“Bear up. All will be well again.”

“Think of good tidings.”

“Cheer up, the worse is yet to come.”

“Count your blessings.”

“Hang in there.”

And so on and so forth. It doesn’t do much for your inner psyche when you hear such endearing comments or well-meaning words coming from their lips, does it?

I mean if you’re in spiritual arrest, is that going to help you through the eternal day or night? Will those phrases quell those anxious feelings, thoughts, or actions that might dominate and persuade you to do something that you really shouldn’t do?

Let’s take a look at some of these words and see what they say to your spiritual self. Yes, you know. That inner feeling that rests within your bosom (don’t squirm or blush, it’s a perfectly legitimate word, and I use it. Deal with it and get over it. Gotcha!)

“Keep a stiff upper lip.” Oh come on. You’ve heard that right before you want to cry, to yell, scream, stomp your foot or strangle someone because something unpleasant happened to you and you’re not sure how to react or not. I mean, come on. Keep a stiff upper lip, really? Where is it written you’ve got to keep your lips stiff when you want to bawl your eyes out. In public, that’s where. In front of your family members where such a display of temperament might not sit so well with the rest of the stiffer upper-lippers in the group.

I’ve got news for you. It’s okay. Cry your heart out. Sob! Rend your breast! Stomp your feet. Let it hang all out. Or suffer the consequences of an ulcer.

“When I was a kid, I … .” Yeah, we’ve all heard that particular saga from our grandparents down to our parents, older siblings, and cousins. Another news flash. Times change. Some for the better. Some for the worse. But, don’t compare your child or children, or younger siblings, or your grandchildren to what you had to endure.

I was born in the 50’s and in 50 years the times have changed. What kids do now, what grandkids do now are so far removed from the 50’s scene that I can’t begin to say by how much! However, their behavior remains the same, and that you can deal with. Otherwise, leave them alone because they’re living in a meaner, nastier, and sometimes cloudy world of technology, global warming, resource scarcities, and an overpopulated world. My hat is off to them on how they’re going to solve this mess that we, the baby boomer generation, has created for them.

“Bear up. All will be well again.” Promise? I bet you can’t because you don’t know and neither do they that things will ever be the same again. Well again, maybe, but that depends on what disturbed the routine in the first place. Deaths take a toll whether from natural causes to Homicide to accidents, to sickness, to what GOD takes away. You can’t guarantee that the family will ever be whole again, love again, trust, the list is endless. You might sympathize with that person, but definitely making and committing to a statement that all will be well again is a false truth since you can’t promise that will happen, now or in the future.

“Think of good tidings.” This one I can honestly say one might be able to say without losing face. You’re asking someone to think of positive things. Think good thoughts. Think positively and positively thoughts will seek and find you. Lesson of the Universe 101.

“Cheer up. The worse is yet to come.” Thank you Prophet Jones. You’ve definitely made my day and of others yet to come or to be. Who wants to hear that type of comment from someone who tells you that they have your spiritual back. Really? That’s how you protect, shelter, and love someone by telling them, be prepared. Run down to the basement and cover yourself with the quilt. That should protect you. That, and 50 cents might buy you a cup of invisible coffee.

“Count your blessings.” Another one I like. Personally, it reminds everyone to remember what they have and what other people don’t have or possibly never have. There are times when I want to wring my own neck, but then I think about all the other people out there who have it worse than me, and it cheers me up considerably.

“Hang in there.” Another one that is viewed two ways. Hang meaning rope swaying in the breeze or Hang meaning life-line and that the life-line makes all the difference since.

Remember the poem, “The Road Not Taken?” I use this poem to remind myself that only me can make the choice to hang (life-line) in there. I’m the one in control, not mother nature, not the milkman, not the postman, not the baker, and certainly not any of my acquaintances, friends or even best friends. They mean well, but you can still die from people meaning well.

Nope, I take my own chances with my own choices and follow the road that I was meant to take. How do I know this? By listening to what is being said inside of me. My little voice sometimes howls so that I can hear it better.

You, too, have an inner voice. It’s called your Spiritual Side.

Listen to what it tells you. You’ll be amazed.

And remember too that although those phrases are well-meaning, well-meaning can put you in your grave just as easily as someone else.

Until next time… .


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When was the last time you had a Spiritual Health checkup?

That long? You can’t even remember?

That’s worse.

The spirit is always with you.

Is it like the Force? It’s a part of the Force!

Both go hand in hand together. Without one the other is left alone on the playing field and will possibly go no further than you have already taken or you might turn to the Dark side.

The Dark Side

Don’t laugh. There’s a dark side to everyone when making their choices during their life-long journey. People turn aside for various and saundry reasons. Don’t know what I’m talking about? Let me enlighten you.

Choices are what make the world turns around. The choices we make are what we face every day — every second — every minute — every hour of our life. Make the wrong choice and all that hinges on that one choice can destroy the world around you. Make the right choice and all that hinges on that one choice can brighten and build the world around you.


Let me put it another way. In STAR WARS, Luke is warned by Obi-wan not to give in to his temptations, his weakness because both will lead him down the wrong path. When Luke makes the right choice, he knows it through and through. You might say “it pierces his soul.” In other words, Luke knows the difference between right and wrong, good and bad. Remember how eloquently Luke argues with Obi-wan that there’s still good in Darth Vader? That’s because Luke feels the good still lingers in his father’s soul. It hasn’t been completely extinguished yet. It exists, but it’s hanging on a tender thread. One wrong choice from either Luke or Darth Vader will send one or the other or both into hell along with the rest of their companions, peers, and lords.

In this respect, that’s how it is with you and me. We all live good lives. We all live and play by the rules, although some people bend the rules a bit, or tell white lies a bit or play both sides against the middle hoping that no one will notice.

Trust me.

Your spiritual side takes notice and it will affect your worldly health in ways that medical science will never treat nor understand.

When I was young and tender

my grandmother had a major operation. She was told by the doctor that her chances of living were slim to none. “Go ahead” she told the doctor.

Suicide by operating. Don’t sneer. Many people use the police or other people to do their dirty work.

My grandmother had the operation and lived to her doctor’s astonishment. She wasn’t too happy I was told. The next day when the doctor made his rounds he told her that she would be let out at the end of the week. My grandmother smiled and told him. “I’ll be dead before the end of the week.” Her doctor smiled in return and told her. “Your granddaughter will here on Friday to take you to your new home.”

“A nursing home,” she said. The doctor said nothing. The next day when the doctor went on his usual rounds, a nurse walked up to him. “Bed 4, Room 612, Mrs. F. is dead.”

Yep, the old lady willed herself to death. She made her choice. It upset her doctor who had a full Board Review go over what he did and didn’t do. He almost lost his job. My mom was pretty upset. It was her mother. I didn’t understand how a person could will themselves to death…unless their Spiritual Health was out-of-order.


We all make them every day of our life. These choices reflect what’s really going on inside of us. If our Spiritual Health is not 100% perfect in working order, chances are that these choices are often influenced by how we feel inside of ourselves.

In my grandmother’s case, she must’ve felt unloved or un-welcomed and therefore she would rather die than submit herself on either one of her daughters.


A profound sense of loss within ourselves yield different types of choices that reflect upon yourselves. It’s our way of seeing how we’re doing inside of ourselves and whether or not we’re in good shape or not.

My grandmother definitely wasn’t in good shape spiritually. That much I realized, but what I couldn’t understand was why she let her spirituality go. Why didn’t she go inside of herself and fix whatever was wrong with her? Why didn’t she admit she needed help?

Unfortunately, I’ll never know the why’s, wherefores, and what’s since she died. My mother took the same path as her mother, except she starved herself to death. Her spiritual health was out of tune as well.

Perhaps, we all need a Spiritual Tune-up like we give our cars, a tune-up that makes them more efficient, run better, and last longer.

I really don’t know. But, I do this: Everyone needs to keep their Spiritual Health in good condition or worse will happen.

Until next time…

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