What do you do when Someone Fails to meet YOUR expectations?
Don’t deny it. It happens. Sometimes from our loved ones. Sometimes from our business clients, boss, or peer relationships. It’s a hard act to follow after you show them what you can do then. And, then, comes AFTER.
AFTER. We’ve all followed in someone’s footsteps. The expectations from a third or second party are usually set so high that it’s impossible to fill those vacant slots.
When I was a professional temporary, former employers told me “I was a hard act to follow.” Their expectations were set so high by the standard of work I performed for them that when the absentee employee came back from sick leave, maternity leave, or vacation, they couldn’t fill what I did. Or, when I left, the company had to hire three or four people to perform the same job that I did daily and faithfully.
How do you handle those kinds of emotions? Do you let them get your goat? Do you scream at the top of your lungs? Do you tell off someone? Do you dash out of the door?
Of course not. Not of those. You want to continue that relationship with your spouse, relative, or children. You want to stay in that job, get promoted, or land that new client. So, what do you do?
- Explain patiently that you’re a professional and that you’ll get the job done to the best of your ability. And make sure, you emphasize YOUR. Because we’re not talking about the former person doing that job or executing that situation. We’re talking about YOU and what these people, spouses, family members can expect from YOU, not them.
- You can set a level of expectation with the way you HANDLE yourself. You’re not in competition with that person who just left. You’re in competition with yourself. That’s right. You set you own bar of expectations. It’s up to you whether you’re going to deliver the goods at that level or fall somewhat under the bar.
- Set your expectation goals in levels and address each particular level. That way, if you do fall a bit short that first time, then you’ve given yourself additional steps to get yourself up to that level of expectation that you’ve imposed on yourself.
- Never allow anyone to set the level of expectation for you. Never. Do it for yourself. For your job. For your spouse. For your family. Do it so that you can grow as a professional and choose to grow with your life’s partner so each of you are satisfied with what the other partner is doing.
- Remember that you’re the one in charge, the one in control. You set your own level of expectations. Do it in stages. And everyone comes out a winner.
- So you will never hear that you FAILED to meet someone else’s level of expectation for you!