Promises Kept or Promises Given
I’ve noticed in this life and those of my parents, sibling, and relatives that throughout one’s journey, people whom you love or people you’ve met often give promises to each other or even to you. And, yet, I can count on my ten fingers the number of promises KEPT as compared to the amount of promises given.
Raise Your Hands
How many of you have had promises given to you over the course of your life.
Yes, I know. That’s how people end their sentences these days, and, especially in the movies during a telling moment or a romantic moment. They don’t always say “I promise you,” but the implication is there. You’ll hear your stalwart hero say, “Promise” or “You have my promise on this.”
Can you guarantee that promise can even be fulfilled?
Kept versus Given
In life’s complications, we always like to give our word to substantiate our feelings. How we want the story to end, the scene to finish, or to erase the ugly scars that someone has visited upon your person or on you loved ones. Can you really guarantee that your word will work out and punish that person who broke your heart?
Us humans are well-intentioned folk. We like to believe that our word carries allot more weight and promise than what will actually happen in real life.
I believe that we ought to be careful when we Promise someone that we will make things better for them, make the pain or hurt go away, or resolve a difficult or complicated matter because we ourselves don’t like to see others hurt or in pain.
I know from personal experience that I never promised my kid anything when he was growing up. Why? Because I knew that sometimes that no matter how hard we try or want to make it come true for our children, that sometimes, life does get in the way.
So, I didn’t want to disappoint him. I didn’t want to hurt him further. I would say stuff like “We’ll see,” “Let’s see what tomorrow brings,” “Maybe,” or “Perhaps.”
You might think of me as cruel, but I didn’t look at it that way.
I thought the way I did it wouldn’t encourage his hope(s) to get any higher than they were already. I hoped that by not promising him something directly that if something worked out to make it better, it would whether he had my word on it or not.
I sometimes think when I see someone pledge their life or those of their kinsman, leave a child or lady behind as collateral or something of themselves behind to bind them to pay that loan or fork over that bit of land their enemy wants, that you’re leaving yourself wide opened for worse things to come.
After all, the hostage can be killed or thrown into the dungeon. Or if you don’t follow through on giving your work, the hostage can be tortured just for the hell of it. You don’t want to give your enemy a reason, you don’t want to give anyone a choice of what to do what you’ve left behind.
So, don’t give your promise unless you mean to fulfill it.
It hurts someone when you don’t follow through.
Don’t give your word or your oath if you know ahead of time that it’s not going to be confirmed. That you’ve got other plans. That you’re promise is really practicing deceit on that person.
So, the next time you give a promise, give a thought of whether it’s going to be kept or given. Because to the person you are giving it to stands the chance of being hurt, deceived, or killed.
Until tomorrow… .